The Interview

15 Jan

Many years ago, at the prime of my dating streak I became involved with somebody that I met in a bar.

I was in a on-and-off three year relationship at the time and he had just broken up with a girlfriend of four years. Somehow finding each other seemed to be ideal for us at the time because neither one of us wanted a huge commitment but we still missed the comforts of a relationship so it was only natural we found our way into one.

When we first started dating it was clear to us that we were sort of on the rebound and we did not expect too much of it. But as time went by and a month went by, we were spending almost every day together or so. I was staying over at his place all the time and getting ready in the mornings to go to work. He wanted me to go to his baseball games and ultimate frisbee games and I did not mind one bit. He introduced me to his friends, took me to parties, took me on double dates with his best friend and he made me and Brooke breakfast. How could I not like him, a guy that enjoyed spending time with me and vice versa and who got along well with my best friend!

Because he had been in his previous relationship for a while, I had to come to terms with the fact that he had chosen to stay friends with his ex. I did not mind this because I never felt threatened by her. Call it cockiness, call it confidence or maybe immaturity on my part but I knew that I had nothing to worry about.

I guess he had not told her that he had moved on so quickly because one day as I was going into his house, she happened to drive by to drop off some of his stuff. We encountered each other in the driveway and I knew who she was but she clearly was surprised to see me. I had done my Facebook creeping and seen old pictures of them; I always like to do my homework when getting into any kind of relationship.

I guess she felt hurt or threatened because as he came out she said out loud to him “Is this your new flavour of the week?” Clearly I was NOT happy about this remark but he assured me that she clearly was not over their relationship and I can imagine anyone would feel hurt seeing your recent ex with a new girlfriend. It was only natural that I did not like her either, so following that day, any encounters we had, clearly there was an exchange of bad remarks towards each other.Him and I broke things off after about five or six months. I guess both of us lost interest in the relationship and we were not able to grow as a couple. We did not stay friends but we also did not end things on bad terms. As years went by, we never saw each other or spoke to each other so that was the end of that. This was over three to four years ago.

Last year I was looking for a new job and started going on several interviews. I applied for a job that seemed to be a great opportunity for me and a few days later I got a phone call. The girl called me and we had a pre screening phone interview which I did well on as she said she wanted me to go in and meet her. She told me she would e-mail me the interview details and that she looked forward to meeting me. As I went to check my inbox with the interview details, my heart skipped a beat as I saw her name in my inbox. I remembered the guy’s ex I dated had a very distinct last name and I was shocked to see this in my inbox.

I did not know how to react and I tried to assure myself that this was not the same person. I really wanted to go to the interview but the idea of seeing her again was not something I wanted to do. I text messaged the guy, hoping he still had the same number and asked him whether she worked for the company I had applied for. A few minutes later, my phone went off and I had received a reply saying “Yes.” These are situations that I would read about and laugh at but ones that I never thought would happen to me.

I asked my friends what to do and was told that she probably did not remember me and to go ahead for the interview. Some told me to not bother as I would probably be awkward enough going and that would just make me feel worse. In the end, I was convinced that she would probably not remember me as she had asked me to go in and to just go ahead. I decided to be mature, take my chance and go to the interview. What did I have to lose in the end.

I showed up to the interview and was told that she would be with me in a moment. As I sat there for five minutes, it seemed like forever. But as I looked up I saw HER walking towards me. At that moment I felt really uncomfortable but her welcoming smile and handshake somehow convinced me that she really had forgotten about me. The interview went well and she started sharing stories with me about how many years ago she went to Thailand and had a great time. I pretended like this was all news to me when I had heard all the stories from our ex. In the end she told me she would keep in touch and she gave me a hug. A hug, how awkward was that.

I went home and felt somehow silly for having over analysed the whole situation. So I waited to see if I would hear back, but I didn’t. I ended up not getting the job but shortly after I got the job I have today which I love. Ironically enough, a week after I was at a bar with Brooke and as we were on the dance floor, I gazed over at the crowd and noticed my ex from three or four years ago. I thought I was seeing things but as we called out his name he came over to me and asked me how I was. Clearly, we still had the same attraction to each other because he came over afterwards. As we started catching up, he brought up my interview with his ex and asked me how it was. I told him it went well but I didn’t get the job.

He confessed that she knew it was me all along, and she had called and asked him if she should call me for an interview or not. He told her to give me a chance because my candidacy for the job should not be affected based on the fact that we had a “situation ” with him. In the end, he said she took his advice and I apparently was the best candidate but her pride and inability to get over what happened overcame her and she settled for hiring someone else. Now I can look back and find humour in the situation but I can assure you that while it happened to me I felt like the universe was playing a silly trick on me. In the end, I’m glad to see that even for the interview she was able to muster up the courage and see me and give me a chance and that ironically enough, he was the reason she had the courage to do so.

Have any of you ever been in an awkward situation? How did you handle it and what would you have done if you were me?



14 Responses to “The Interview”

  1. nelle January 15, 2012 at 3:22 pm #

    Interesting scenario. She erred, not just by failing to hire you, but in service to her employer. First employer related mistake was failing to involve another given her knowledge and bias, and second, by not hiring the best candidate. I’d be miffed if her employer.

    I’ve been in plenty of awkward situations, some handled well, but during my time of meltdown and dysfunction, not so much.

    Not involving a love interest, when I was in college, I worked a summer job at a local television station doing maintenance. This state was about to hold a special election to settle a tie for US Senator the year before, the closest Senate race in US history. I went in the downstairs restroom, a singular unit. Whilst in there, into the lobby comes the governor, one Senate candidate, and the station manager. They discussed shenanigans, how to manipulate news for timing so the other candidate would respond and give this guy last say. I didn’t dare emerge from the restroom; they didn’t know I was in there.

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 12:58 am #

      Apparently I heard from my ex that she had quit shortly after because the company wasn’t doing so well, so I guess in the end she did me a favour!

  2. riatarded January 15, 2012 at 3:22 pm #

    Wow she didn’t hire you because of a situation?

    That is so immature and unprofessional. Feeling bad is one thing but she shouldn’t even have called you for an interview if she was bearing a grudge.

    She was an ex, you didn’t cheat or anything. UGH! can’t stand people like this!

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 12:59 am #

      Guess she never got over him and was just overly jealous!!

  3. The Skinny Jeans and Starbucks Chronicles January 15, 2012 at 4:58 pm #

    Thats such a crazy story!! As much as I agree that she was being unprofessional by not hiring you, it was probably better for both of you that she didn’t. You were clearly uncomfortable and from the sounds of it so was she. That would always be the elephant in the room.
    Plus she would be your boss. Ugh. Bad work environment.

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 1:00 am #

      Exactly, good point. I always talk to my co-workers, I imagine things with her would be so awkward day in and day out and we would just try to avoid each other. Also she would probably try to make my life hell because she had that crazy side to her.

  4. BougieHippie January 16, 2012 at 12:26 am #

    I hired my ex’s new boyfriend before and I thought it was cool but one day I had to write him up he made the comment “Now I see why he broke up with you.” I laughed and said “actually I broke up with him why you think you got the job? b/c he called and asked if I could give you one.” he was embarrassed and thats was the end of it.

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 1:00 am #

      What a jerk! Glad you stood up for yourself and told him that, sounds like he really deserved it.

  5. breezyk January 16, 2012 at 10:50 am #

    Great story- so awkward that happened, though. I agree it’s best you didn’t end up there- imagine having to work with her every day! So petty of her to tell her the Thailand stories too when she knows you would probably know who she went with, etc….

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 1:01 am #

      Yeah she’s definitely a crazy ex, she fits the description to a T.

  6. christinaspade January 17, 2012 at 7:04 pm #

    I had done my Facebook creeping and seen old pictures of them; I always like to do my homework when getting into any kind of relationship.

    Glad I’m not the only one!!

    • BROOKEandMCKENZIE January 19, 2012 at 1:01 am #

      Facebook creeping is a wise choice, if someone doesn’t have Facebook you somehow wonder if they are hiding something or lying haha.

  7. Victoria-writes January 19, 2012 at 5:47 am #

    Wow small world! so awkward but you handle it really well and I’m glad it all worked out in the end.

  8. EllieAnn January 19, 2012 at 10:33 am #

    That is SO awkward! I can’t believe that happened to you–you’re right, it sounds like it came from a rom-com or novel or something.
    And she called you flavor of the month? Ye gads! It might be good that you didn’t end up working with her. :-/
    I love reading your stories.

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